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4 Steps For Dealing With Terrible Friends
4 Steps For Dealing With Terrible Friends | jean-gerard-eberlin.com
You see, we spend a lot of time examining and looking out for toxic relationships but give very little consideration to the possibility that we have toxic friends. We put a great deal of attention on avoiding unhealthy romantic relationships, but platonic friendships can be just as damaging, just as toxic, even as abusive. Toxic friends can actually be harder to recognize. But those toxic friends are destroying your self-esteem, ruining your happiness and in many cases actively holding you back. In the US, we tend to suffer under the myth of the Intrepid Individual. We see ourselves islands of self-reliance in a sea of conformity, shaped by our own wills, uninfluenced by the world around us.
How do assholes always manage to have so many friends?
Someone once said a good friend will help you move but a true friend will help you move a body and that is hilarious. Go on, have a chuckle. That's some Dilbert -level stuff. But it also avoids entirely the fact that sometimes the body you're moving was killed by your friend because your friend is a complete lunatic asshole and you didn't find out about it until it was too late. Fact is, sometimes you become friends with someone before you know their true nature, and once you figure it out, dealing with the relationship is super hard since your acquaintance from the dog park is now an utter monster.
Maybe they just cannot stand you, but some cases occur where something isn't right. Maybe it is the way she looks at you, maybe it is the boyfriend advice she gave you, maybe you just don't get a good vibe. You don't want to assume anything because being in their bad books is not something you can deal with right now. You just need time to evaluate the friendship.