I was born in a small port town in Japan and moved to Eugene, Oregon, when I was 5 years old, where I lived until I graduated college. Friends casually called us racial slurs. I brushed most of these comments off as well-intentioned, if misguided, jokes. And old stereotypes about Asian men persist.
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Every night he goes to gay bars in Portland, Oregon, Justin Riel, a year-old Filipino immigrant who works as a data manager for local courts, gets hit on by white men. Sort of. One hookup, he said, lost his erection when he learned Riel is Asian. Portland is the whitest big city in America.
The Urgent Question Gay Asian-American Men Are Asking Themselves
On dating apps, you're rarely a human. Mostly you're an avatar, reduced to race, height, weight and a sexual position. You're a thumbnail photo in a game that can be as crude as it is brutal on your self-esteem, if you let it.
I wanted a glimpse of the life I could have — someone who looked like me and could understand my struggle. It was what gay society told me was the pinnacle of male beauty. For a long time, I thought that coming out would open doors to a place where I could be open about my identity without judgement.